The Voyage called Life

" Life, he realized, was much like a song. In the beginning there is mystery, In the end there is confirmation, but it is in the middle where all the emotions reside to make the whole thing worthwhile" - Nicholas Sparks
In this voyage called life I have learnt that life goes on no matter what the loss maybe, no matter how painful everyday maybe, no matter how much you may like to dwell over the past, or no matter how much you would like life to fast forward just a bit because the current existence is just too painful to deal with I have learnt that each day would unfold just exactly as it was meant to be.


"You are going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, its always their actions you should judge them by. Its actions, not words that matter." - Nicholas Sparks
- Tell me again, how you went from loving me "more" to loving me no more?

 I have learnt that love happens when you are least looking for it and it disappears just exactly when you have made space for it and learn to love the feeling of being in love. I have learnt that when it has to go it just leaves creating a hollow in one’s existence, I have learnt that strangers may fall in love and identify themselves as soul mates and the same soul mates resemble like strangers in just the blink of a moment.

I have learnt that life brings in equal amounts of joyous moments and equal amounts of gloomy moments, it all really depends on how much you celebrate your happy moments probably by living each moment of your happiness to the fullest, and how bravely you face the misty moments, taking each impediment in your stride bravely repeating to yourself with all the conviction you can muster that “this phase shall also pass”.

I have learnt that the only way to achieve what you want is by making yourself believe that you really can pull off what you dream, by actually pushing yourself to achieve those dreams. No dream is ever realized without pain, struggle, hard work, perseverance, determination and the occasional tear. I have learnt that on your path to reaching out the stars that bedazzles your gaze you are going to find a number of people telling you how impossible your goals are, or how difficult the road lays ahead of you, many may even try to persuade you to rethink of your decision to want to fly that high and reach those stars, but it is you who has to firmly stand by for yourself and allow yourself to achieve all that you desire for.

I have learnt that the act of compassion and giving not only helps another being during his wearisome times, but it gives you the feeling of inner happiness and peace which is rare to find in the ever challenging & chaotic lives we lead.

I have learnt that there are often going to be phases when you are going to find yourself to be all on your own, and during those times you have to try a little harder than usual to let the inner light of yours to continue to ignite against all adversities, you have to try harder to continue to pave your way amid all the hardships.


"Never be ashamed of a scar, it often means that you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you"- Unknown
I have learnt that no matter how long and dark the night gets, with the crack of dawn that seeps in unhurriedly, sturdily spreads rays of sunshine brightening luminosity across the skies of dawn just the same way worries, heartaches, struggles and periods of hopelessness would soon follow periods of happiness, success, peace and fulfillment. You just got to hang in there till the sunrises.

I have learnt during the voyage called life that nothing lasts forever, hence let go of what hurts, forgive and forget quickly, smile always, laugh aloud, never lose faith in yourself and god, and live each day as it would be your last.

People come and people go, they will drift in and out of your life, almost like characters in a favorite book. When you have finally closed the cover the characters have told their story and you start up again with another book, complete with new characters and adventures. 

Love is a changeable feeling!

The realization has finally struck, that the one whose absence is making you miserable doesn’t love you anymore or being little more practical never did love you. At first it does seem devastating almost like an earth shattering feeling. The love you thought it was has become an illusion for you now. Days are spent trying to figure out that there was probably something wrong with you; something that you did or didn't do that could've saved your precious relationship. Repeatedly you may even try to find ways to make yourself look more lovable, like there has to be this one thing or the many set of things about you that you can change and then magically you will be accepted by the center of your world. You almost dream of him or her come back running to you, taking you back in their arms that may remind you of a scene from some RomCom flick you may have watched during your teens.

But NO! You can't possibly bring anyone back into your life! I totally defy all those articles or books that are written on how you can get your ex back. Its waste of time if read. I humbly beg to differ with those theories because when you broke up with them, or if we can put it the other way round when they broke up with you there was something that had turned off inside them and in turn they made the decision to stop loving you and wanting out of the relationship that they shared with you.  Can you imagine someone in love with you not wanting to save a relationship that made a difference to them? Or can you imagine someone who wants you so much, loves you so much not wanting to fight for being with you or not wanting to do everything possible to save the relationship? See you have your answer there! You did not matter to them then, how are you going to be valued later? It’s just like they wanted it out and they got it. 

If only you could realize how little it has to do with you, and it is so much to do with them! But at that point of time we don’t think rationally.

It’s ironical, People’s abilities to disengage themselves. It’s a scary truth to realize. It’s a much easier pill to swallow when there are concrete reasons why the love stopped — it makes people seem less scary and more rational — but sometimes the loss of love is just as irrational as love.

Realizing this might sound like the ultimate torture to the already grim life you are living anyways, but believe it, accepting this fact is the ultimate relief. You are going to stop re-running episodes of how you could have done something or said something or not done anything at all to save that relationship or try to device strategies to get your ex back. Accept that the love switch has turned off in your ex’s head forever that it is something inside them that has changed forever and that there is nothing that you can do to change it. The point is that people change and outgrow each other. Placing the blame on yourself and agonizing over what you could’ve done to change the outcome is fruitless. It’s all chemical anyway. Take the weight of that grief off your shoulders, just let go of it all take solace in knowing that you will be loved again for who you are.