‘He felt a great sense
of pride when he went to work every day he loved his job, & when he got back home his wife doted on him. One day his office hired another who was a lot
younger than him for half the salary he drew. And his wife, she realized that
he always took his occupation over her and decided to stop being devoted to him
like before’.
Let go of things that you feel deeply attached to, of things
that would bring a lot of pain if they ever went missing. Acknowledge the fact that
being detached in general towards possessions, people or even a profession makes
it easy to let go of them if they ever went missing because no matter how much
we love the word “forever” nothing really is forever or as being permanent.
Today the source of your happiness may perhaps take a diversion and then you
would have to find a new source to be
happy again. Over time people change,
needs change, situations change people may go from being happy to sad, from
being poor to rich or from being close to you and then not. The switch can
happen, you can’t rule it out. So you have to accept that you can’t really hang
onto people, situations or even your possessions no matter how deeply you are fond
of them.
Hence being objective helps,
being adaptive and receptive to the change helps. When you unlearn your need to
possess or when you let go of your need to be reassured by the people around
you that they are always going to be your greatest strength, or your state of
affairs in life are never going to change or what you possess is only yours you
stop wallowing for what is lost and you begin to find ways to fill the gap. You
have to accept the change or the loss someday, but if you decide to
welcome the change, decide to change yourself to adapt to the change and perhaps even
learn to enjoy the change you will only help yourself be happy faster
again.
