Sighs! How many of us have been
through curfews levied on us by our parents during our teenage years? This
isn’t even our fault! It is all because of the chemical reactions in our brains
that would signal us do crazy things like get fatally attracted to the opposite
sex. The girls would guzzle on endless RomCom novels or movies weaving
fantasies of a quixotic married life similar to their current favorite novel or
movie and the male fraternity would visualize endlessly about the curves of
their lady love and her beauty spots! Both of them eager to be with the other
just that the entire universe that includes their terrorizing parents and the
agonizing society are all at their malevolent best! They cannot stand to see
the happiness of the young couple! All that they were devising were strategies
to get the two of them to stay away from each other. Perhaps now if we looked
back we could laugh at the episodes when our parents or our friend’s parents
would turn into law enforcement agents or the descendants of Sir Sherlock Holmes
by implementing every theory in the book to discover secret affairs if any of
their offspring; The “unfortunate” parents could foresee their future and the
future of their son doomed because of the girl who seemed to have driven them
and their precious son to sleepless nights; And also caused a turmoil in his
grades and mark sheet!
The wobbly teenage soon follows a
phase when the realization hits you that your teenage dream of getting married
or having a girl by your side could finally come true. Your parents, the once
upon a time villains of your teenage romance are on the lookout for a suitable
better half for you but interestingly you find yourself laden up with doubts
about the whole marriage idea the picture doesn’t
seem to look all that glossy
any more. You tend to mull over the responsibilities that come with the
institution like paying the bills on time, up keeping and maintaining the nest
you reside within, ensuring that you do not under any circumstances go bankrupt
at the end of the month, or finding employment with a stable income. You
finally realize that you cannot sit on your bum around all day playing a
guitar, just reading a book, catching up with friends for a casual leisurely
coffee or a movie. Because that doesn’t keep the fires in the kitchen burning.
You begin to gauge the
consequences of your actions and if you got married; the responsibilities of
married life becomes a reality as well. You realize the importance of keeping
your service provider happy by ensuring timely payment of your bills, the
concept of living in a clean pest free environment where people don’t trip on
the mess in your room becomes clearer to you. Maintaining a decent bank balance
which is not on the brink of being dangerously close to the minimum requirement
becomes a reality too. The point here is one really doesn’t have to bother
about such realities when it’s just you taking care of yourself. Doing the
laundries not this week but next is ok, keeping your hair messed up and
wandering in old pajamas is fine if you don’t have the love of your life living
with you, who would probably faint at the sight of the disheveled you. Nor is
having kids and loading yourself up with another living being’s responsibility
a very appealing aspect.
I think early on parents must
have mature conversations with their children about life, their daily
struggles, how they work so hard to provide them with a decent living, and how
they work towards making their relationship as a spouse work. Children should
be taught about life not being a mere fantasy, because often they enter
adulthood, relationships and responsibilities having the wrong notions
instilled which mess with their ideas of shouldering responsibilities and
handling relationships with maturity. Either they begin to reject the idea of
mature adulthood responsibilities and relationships, or they continue to live in
their superficial fantasies. When these folks finally jolt out of their
imaginations they are either in denial or are unable to accept and accommodate
the workings of a real relationship.
Interesting and thought provoking article .
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